My life is the sum total of every decision I have ever made. When something isn’t what I want it to be, my decisions are at the heart of that situation.
And most importantly, my habits can start to get me out of it.
In short, everything is your fault! And that is a good thing!
That idea was emphasized in my recent interview with Lia Bliss. Her recent book, Everything is Your Fault highlights how to take personal responsibility for the habits and outcomes of our lives.
I asked her to explain the idea of how thinking that everything is my fault can be a good thing! Here was her answer:
Yes, well absolutely everything is your fault and I think it’s very telling how that statement makes you feel internally.
Does that fill you with excitement or does that fill you with shame?
Does that make you feel the icky?
Because when it comes to living your bliss life, when you want to have everything you’ve ever wanted, why isn’t it happening?
People aren’t living their best life because it’s this victim mentality.
It’s this searching outside of ourselves for a reason why we can’t be successful.
“Oh it’s because of the way I was raised. Oh it’s because of my economic status. Oh it’s because of this or that.”
And we look outside ourselves for all the reasons, but once we can take in this radical accountability for ourselves, you realize, everything is your fault.
Which is great when you got a great life you think, “Look at all this I’ve accomplished! I’m proud of myself!
I think a lot of times people when you say, “Hey it’s your fault”. They feel attacked and they feel shame.
That sense of shame because we all have that thing that we did once that we just cringe.
You got that internal “icky” like I can’t believe I did that.
And if you let that compound over your whole life, I think that keeps you from taking radical accountability for what you’ve done.
And then once you can start to realize, everything is your fault, it empowers you to start making the changes that you want to see in your own life.
So that’s the that’s the “Everything is your fault” mentality.
Two words really jumped out at me that Lia said. “Radical Accountability.” I loved that concept. Once we take radical accountability for the things we have done, we can move forward in making progress!