3 action items to build belief in yourself

How do we build our belief in ourselves? What we believe dictates our action. If you believe you will get more fit from working out (and if you believe that matters) you are more likely to work out.

But, even if you believe that working out would help someone else, if you don’t believe you can do it, you won’t!

If you don’t think you can be happy, you won’t build happier habits. If you don’t think you can be successful, you won’t create success habits. If you don’t think you can be financially stable, you won’t create stable financial habits.

IT ALL STARTS WITH BELIEF IN YOURSELF!

I asked my friend Eric Chow how we can build that belief in ourselves in my recent podcast episode. (Check it out here).

His answer was so great I wanted to share it with you. Look for the 3 action items on how to build belief in yourself.

Jason:

So much of our future actions are based off our current belief. Both the belief that we have about ourselves and the belief of the outcome any particular behavior will bring to us.

What do you do to positively impact the mental space of your personal belief?

Eric:

So, I think there are a couple things that that comes to mind, for me, the first thing is, I think results create belief.

In the beginning when we’re trying to do something new, it’s difficult to have any belief at all that we can do it well.

Mainly because we have no reference point. The key part in the early beginning is

1: taking action and trying to get some early results.

For example, let’s use a simple example of working out.

Working out you’re not going to see your body change in the first like week. But maybe you were like, “Oh I couldn’t even do 10 pushups before, but now I can do like 15!”

Hey that’s a win!

Little things start to compound and raise your belief and learning to celebrate those little wins.

2: I think another thing is looking at other people who are helping you out.

Maybe you have a personal trainer. For me, when I got my personal trainer I had never worked out consistently for a very long time.

I had been on and off, but I just I couldn’t stick with it, for whatever.

Then, I got this guy, he just keeps giving me these workouts!

Some of them were really hard at the beginning, some of them were not that bad, but I just put all my trust in this guy because I just looked at how he looked and I told myself, “Okay, guy knows what he’s doing!”

So, I just put my trust in him.

And now I’ve been working out with them for six months and I’m way stronger than I used to be.

In the end, results matter!

And it goes for pretty much everything else, not just working out as just a simple example I like to use.

3: The third thing I would come up with is borrowing someone else’s belief in you.

The way this works is, I have somebody else who I believe in, maybe, a friend, a mentor, a parent, a teacher, or a coach. Somebody else I believe in.

I may not believe in myself because maybe I’m new at something or whatever it may be. Sometimes it’s just personal insecurity.

But I believe in them, and I trust them, and they believe in me.

So, I feel that it is contradictory for me to believe them in some areas and then not believe them when they say, “Eric I believe in you.”

This cycle has almost forced me to believe in myself, because they believe in me.

And I just start to assume that, even if I don’t see it, I can actually do this, even if I can’t see it, this is actually going to be fine, even if I can’t see it, because I have somebody else who I admire, who I look up to who I believe in telling me that I can do it.

Then my belief in myself starts to change.

What a powerful answer! (You can see the video of this on my YouTube channel) Did you see your action items in this answer?

Your action items:

1. Identify your area of growth, identify a small action, and start today!
2. Find a mentor that can show you the way. (Hint: you don’t even have to know them, you can follow them virtually).
3. Find and talk everyday with someone that believes in you!

Your resources:

1. Use the Happily Ever Habits guide to get started.
2. If you need help with any action items, email me and we will get you started!
3. If you are part of an organization that wants some help with habits, contact me for a free virtual or live training.